Processing Loss

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“When I die, I’m going to come back as one of these. Or I chose the wrong tattoo.”

Gramma Tala

Kobe Bryant passing away felt like an old friend had died. Although we never met, I felt like I grew up with him. Yesterday, a youth minister from my childhood congregation passed away. It was another blow to myself and many. I am sure that others have experienced loss in some capacity in the last year, month, week, and day. Loss is as much of a part of life as gain and increase. I’ve been watching more movies lately because of my Disney obsession. I was previously a movie fanatic, but stopped because I didn’t perceive to have time for it. One of my favorite aspects of movie watching is the ability to view humanity and emotions as a third person. Loss, death, and darkness are in every movie to some extent. In Star Wars there are prophecies about restoring balance. However, it seems like something is wrong because the dark side keeps prevailing. Just as the dark side has its place in balance, loss and death do as well. I loved how in Moana the story was set up in a way that death, however devastating, was portrayed as beautiful and a vital part of the cycle of life. As I life longer, I will invariably be confronted with my own mortality and the death of others. It’s the double edge sword of longevity. It’s a blessing to die without fear and be confronted will peace when loss comes. May we all have that peace.

One thought on “Processing Loss

  1. Dear Dr. C. Jones- Bourne,
    Today, I enjoyed reading every aspect of your mental Health lessons, tutorials and blogs. Your information is insightful, informative, educational and uplifting. I greatly appreciate your time and thoughtfulness of thinking creatively on how to help your patients/individual(s) who may/may not be aware of the available intervention(s) to help them heal or be ashamed to ask for help when their in a crisis or at an unexpected roadblock in their daily life journey. Dr. Bourne, you wrote about all the essential aspects of teaching an individual(s) about the importance of self-examination and self-care prior to seeking professional help medically/psychologically 🙏🏾😇👸🏽. Your ability to share your personal journey of self-care and healing was/is crucial in your work as well. Unfortunately, an abundance of doctors do not often share their personal medical/mental challenges or temporary setbacks publicly or rarely to their patients privately. That’s what make you as a doctor extremely unique & phenomenal…Real Talk 😂. Similarly to what you stated, we are all human beings. We all need some form of help/healing at some stage in our life. The ultimate goal(s): recognize it and have the helpful/proper resources to refer to when necessary. You Nailed It!! 👏🏾🏆Your creative T-shirts also are helpful ways to empower individual(s) that having/living with an invisible/visible illness or disability is not the end of life or ones destiny on 🌎.

    Ms. U. Watson

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